The night before I heard about Jon, I was laying in my bed, feeling sorry for myself. It was another Saturday night alone at home, both my roommates out on dates. Out of some sort of single desperation, I told God that I was tired of looking for a boyfriend. I had only ever been out on a handful of dates…mostly with men who didn’t actually intend our outing to be a date, or with men who turned out to be serial first daters – using the same date every time and never calling the girl back (ask me how I know he did this to multiple women…). In any case, I felt like I had to be doing something wrong, and maybe I was too uptight and controlling (who, me?) about the whole situation. So I told the Lord that I was done, it was totally up to Him, and I’d just start saying “yes” to whatever came along (assuming the man that came along loved Him – that was a point I was not willing to compromise on). It wasn’t like I had been saying “no” to all these perfect men, but this was my misguided way of telling God that I realized I wasn’t in control of this, and I surrendered.
We were married on August 7, 2009 in front of 300 friends and family. And then life together began. 🙂 Marriage is so much more amazing and complicated and wonderful and difficult and incredibly worth it. I know one thing for sure, the Lord has been faithful to us, and led us through some highs and lows, even in the short time we’ve been married. We are learning every day to lean more on Him, to put each other first, and to figure out what love really looks like. We were blessed with our sweet Emily Ann on January 2, 2011, and now we’re also learning about the joys of parenting together!
So that’s our story so far. We’re almost three years in. Which really isn’t a whole lot of time. But we believe marriage is for life and we plan on spending the rest of our lives together, so, Lord willing, we’ve got some time to figure things out. 🙂 In the meantime, we’re grateful for the blessings God has given us, and we can’t wait to see what He’s got for us in the future.
Kayse is a wife, mom, and founder of the Anchored Women community. She writes to help women fight busy, find rest, and build a life that’s anchored in Christ. Kayse is also the creator of the S.O.S. Planner, the Anchored Life Kit, and other practical resources that equip women to manage their homes and families in confidence. You can find her writing and her resources at anchored-women.com!