The last two weeks have been hard on our marriage.
Two people on different pages, not for any specific reason but just because life got in the way.
Life has been hard on our marriage.
And Monday night, in one of those at-your-wits-end arguments, we threw in the towel.
Not at each other. Not at our marriage. But at the way we’d been doing it.
It just wasn’t working. We’d been looking out for ourselves and not considering the other. And after a couple of weeks of that, you start to become overtaken by bitterness and anger and frustration at the way the other person keeps failing. You try to fight for yourself and it feels like beating your head against a brick wall.
You don’t get anywhere.
We weren’t getting anywhere.
So, right there, in the kitchen, we made a decision. We changed our perspective.
Sometimes, that’s all that’s left to do.
Maybe it sounds simple. Maybe that’s because it is. But we decided to try and outlove each other. For one week.
No judgments. No criticism. Just loving and encouraging the other person. For one week. And then if there were issues, we could talk about them at the week’s end.
But somehow, in the last few days of really trying to love one another, all judgements aside, the issues seem to have vanished. And we are smiling again.
Funny. Perspective can make all the difference. Do you need to change yours?
Kayse Pratt serves Christian women as a writer + designer, creating home + life management resources that help those women plan their days around what matters most. She’s created the most unique planner on the market, helped over 400 women create custom home management plans, and works with hundreds of women each month inside her membership, teaching them how to plan their days around what matters most. When she’s not designing printables or writing essays, you’ll find Kayse homeschooling her kids, reading a cheesy novel with a giant cup of tea in hand, or watching an old show from the 90’s with her husband, who is her very best friend.