Playdough :: The answer to all the world’s problems. Or maybe just mine.
Jon’s been gone this week, so it’s just been the kids and me at home.
(Send wine.)
Usually, after we put the kids to bed, Jon and I hang out. Clean the kitchen, watch NCIS on Netflix, you know, really important things. So this week, since I have so much “free” time, I thought I’d try to simultaneously catch up and get ahead on all the bloggy stuff that’s on my to-do list.
With the excess of posts this week, I’m sure you can see how that’s gone.
I spend my day answering questions like, “Why is it time for lunch?” and “Why can’t I wear my fancy church dress to play outside in the dirt?” and “Why don’t rich people like Jesus?” (After many long minutes of refuting this, I learned she thought “rich” meant “very, very bad, like punching and kicking people, which I will never do to my brudder. I will never be rich.” Obviously, only the last part of that is true.) So, by 8pm, my magical get-it-all-done time, my brain is in a puddle on the floor along with ALL the water from bathtime. Needless to say, I have not gotten much done this week.
But, you know what? We made playdough today. Over flour and salt and food coloring, Emmy and I had FUN. We laughed and stirred and worked with our hands. We had fun together.
And after making playdough, I was refreshed. I was energized. I loved spending time with my girl and being silly together.
And I realized that maybe it’s not my kids that exhaust me so much. Maybe it’s the lack of fun in our house.
I tend to err on the side of insisting we don’t have time for fun. There are THINGS TO DO and CLOTHES TO WASH and POSTS TO WRITE. And by the end of the day, I’m worn flat out.
(Maybe you get that.)
But today I saw a sign in Hobby Lobby that said “Children only get one childhood”. And yeah, that’s a little cheesy, or guilt-trippy, but it’s also true. And I don’t think I want my kids to remember that Mommy was always too busy for them.
Emmy keeps asking me lately if we can do things “just us girls?”, and I know that in ten years or so she’s not going to be asking for that anymore. And I read this post today and picked up this book again and I’m just reevaluating. Again.
I think it’s okay for us to do this. To need a reminder, a refresher, something that brings us back to our love for motherhood. I think that being a mom simultaneously makes you want to sing for joy and run for your life, and I think it’s okay that when we feel like running, we stop and remember the things that made us sing.
For our family, I think we need a little bit more fun in our house. We maybe need a little less work and a few more playdough snowmen. And really what I mean by that is that we need a little more conversation. A little more relationship. A lot more face-to-face time. And a lot less self-induced stress from trying to do ALL THE THINGS.
We can’t do all the things. So let’s choose the important ones.
(And now I have to go pull my son off the table he’s climbed on because, let’s face it, I’m never gonna be that fun.)
How do you have fun in your home?
(I really want to know because this is not my strength. I can give you a list of chores and projects to work on, if you’d like, but I need some ideas for FUN!! My idea of fun is reading a book. The preschooler and toddler disagree.)
Kayse Pratt serves Christian women as a writer + designer, creating home + life management resources that help those women plan their days around what matters most. She’s created the most unique planner on the market, helped over 400 women create custom home management plans, and works with hundreds of women each month inside her membership, teaching them how to plan their days around what matters most. When she’s not designing printables or writing essays, you’ll find Kayse homeschooling her kids, reading a cheesy novel with a giant cup of tea in hand, or watching an old show from the 90’s with her husband, who is her very best friend.
Such an important reminder. And I never thought of the “lack of fun” being the problem. But, it is very true. Thanks for sharing. I feel like you’re peeking into my brain sometimes! 🙂
I am sure we could use a little more fun over here too. You’re right, it can be hard when the to-do list seems never-ending. My kids play so well together, though, that even though they would love for me to join in on the fun, I’m happy just because they’re content. I need to join in more.
A few things we do for fun here: pull a mattress off the bed (we have thin IKEA mattresses for my boys) and let the kids jump off stools onto the mattress or have a “dance on the mattress” party. We did that one last night. It was great and got them very ready for bed ;-). We also really like to create together. This one I’m good for joining in because otherwise I don’t usually make time for my own art. So we will sit and draw or paint and enjoy each other’s company. And, one other thing is taking walks through the woods together. They don’t go off on their own through the woods yet since they aren’t old enough– it’s always a family affair. It’s a good time to unplug, exercise, explore, and connect with each other.
What a thoughtful post, Kayse!
Love the idea of playing with play dough and just having fun!
My girl is now 20 and in college. When she wants to “play,” I drop everything! Usually she wants to go to the mall or to lunch. But, I never regret taking time for her or for her brother!
Think you are on to something – have fun with those babies! They grow up fast!
Came over on Work for Me, and I’m glad to find your post.
Hope you have a blessed day~
Melanie
I am not going to be any help because I don’t know what kids really consider fun. Because my idea of fun is a board or card game with my husband and a wine cooler (or, lately, sparkling apple cider), a good movie or NCIS (our current Netflix addiction as well!), and an early bedtime.
But I just wanted to thank you for this because I am going to need the reminder! In a few weeks/months/years. I love this especially: “I think that being a mom simultaneously makes you want to sing for joy and run for your life, and I think it’s okay that when we feel like running, we stop and remember the things that made us sing.”
YES. I don’t have personal experience with this yet but I can observe it in the lives of other moms, and I know I will need to remember this sooner than I think.
Thank you for your constant encouragement, and for your sense of humor. 🙂 Hope the rest of the week sans hubby goes well! <3