Emily started gymnastics a few weeks ago. So, once a week, for one hour, we trek to the gym and watch her somersault and jump and have a blast.
This last week, as we were driving away from the gym, I asked Emmy what her favorite part of gymnastics was that day.
She quickly replied, “The balance beam! But you didn’t see it because you were on your phone.”
To be fair, I had seen it. And I cheered her on and gave her a thumbs up through the window, and prayed when she held up the entire line of preschoolers behind her when she refused to take another step.
But at one point, somewhere in that hour, she looked over at me and saw me looking at my phone.
What I learned from that tiny little interaction with my daughter, is that despite her independence and strong will, she still needs me. She knows it. And she wants me to know it.
So often, I look around at things online and start feeling like I don’t quite measure up. Like I should be more than I am, for my kids. Never in the history of the world have moms been so bombarded with images of all the things we could be doing. Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook… Everything is there for us to see. I love the fact that we can share in each other’s lives through social media, but it’s so very easy to get caught up in comparison and guilt as we take in someone else’s highlight reel.
The fact of the matter, though, is that my kid doesn’t care if I throw her the Pinterest-perfect birthday party, or take the perfect picture of us reading together.
All she cares about is that I watch her walk (albeit slowly) across the balance beam.
So today, let’s do something. Let’s walk away from it all, for a day, and remember what’s truly important.
Let’s leave Pinterest alone for the day. Let’s stop adding to our to-do lists and start enjoying the freedom of margin in our real lives.
Let’s refuse to click on that Instagram notification. You know the mess of real life doesn’t often get shared there anyway.
Let’s step back from the Facebook conversations. Let’s read our kids a story that’s filled with adventure instead of reading about what that other mom had for lunch today.
Momma, you don’t need social media to tell you everything you’re not. No, you are right where you are supposed to be. You have already been given everything you need to be the mom you want to be. The mom He wants you to be. The mom He’s made you to be.
Don’t try to be anyone else. Your kids need YOU.
You, with your off-key singing and your burnt cookies and your late arrival to church every week.
You, with your crumb-dusted floor and your piles of laundry and your sink full of dishes.
You, with your tired smile and your open arms and your daily “I love you”s.
Here’s the thing. God doesn’t expect you to be Pinterest-perfect. Your kids don’t expect you to be Pinterest-perfect.
Don’t expect yourself to be.
All they expect is that you’ll show up. Put your phone down. Give them a thumbs up through the glass. All our kiddos want from us, IS US. They want to know that when push comes to shove, we’ve chosen them, and we’re so very happy with our choice.
That’s enough, momma. The fact that you are trying your best, and leaning on Jesus for the rest? It’s enough.
You know how much you love those scrubby little patience-testers?
Our Heavenly Father loves you even more than that. Right where you are.
Nope, you’re not perfect. But you’re His. And those kiddos? They are yours.
And that’s enough.
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Kayse Pratt serves Christian women as a writer + designer, creating home + life management resources that help those women plan their days around what matters most. She’s created the most unique planner on the market, helped over 400 women create custom home management plans, and works with hundreds of women each month inside her membership, teaching them how to plan their days around what matters most. When she’s not designing printables or writing essays, you’ll find Kayse homeschooling her kids, reading a cheesy novel with a giant cup of tea in hand, or watching an old show from the 90’s with her husband, who is her very best friend.